Keep A TIGHT Circle..!!

........Okay so on a good and bad note, in the past few years I have lost and gained friends, some quicker then others. But im just the type of person that once u lose my trust its just that. LOST! and you probably wont get it back. & if having you around wasnt adding anything positive to my life anyway, well I wont try to bring you back. I have had people who I thought were really my friends do things that a real friend would not do. So Im jus learning that you MUST keep a tight circle. We all have associates; but at the end of the day you have to know who youre real friends are, and whos going to be their for you in times of need. Pretty much; I dont need anyone in my life if they dont have my best interest at heart. TRUE Friends have friends backs, in times of need they are their, they understand one another and they know the solution to your problems when sometimes even you dont. They wont do things to put you down, hurt you, or betray youre trust They think about you before they do things that may effect you emotionally. They care about youre feelings!!!!!!!!!!! It comes natural within a true friendship..If they dont live up to these things in youre eyes then maybe they are just meant to be associates! &..you MUST distinguish the two before its too late, and the associates you are holding to close do something to hurt you. I have just realized that some people werent meant to be in my life; and when they were removed or just distanced I was happier in general. Im the type of person who is naturally happy, silly and goofy! So if for some reason I feel I cant be myself around you; well that is a problem. I mean think about it; when your having boy issues, family issues ..whatever! Who do u turn too (if not my mom) then my friends! & i not them then im stuck working it out by myself. Now who wants that?? (lol) IDK about you all But im jus [tired] of fake people!!!!! Now dont get me wrong I LOVE meeting new people:) But just be real!

This is just an article that I found and liked.............

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you will know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real!

But, only for a seasonLIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person or people involved; and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships, and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

In the end I just say keep your circle tight!! Do what makes you happy and surround yourself around people that do the same!

Relationships in College!!

............So this is a question me an my Sis ask all the time! Various people, but all in the same position. [boys in college]............[or maybe just boys at Hampton] who knows? but anyway.. why dont you want a relationship???? & we get the same anwer all the time....."youre in college, why would you want to settle down now".."youre only 21 you have your whole life to settle down". okayy whatever! ...anyway point blank just dont go to anything with anyone here trying to find a relationship! Feel him out first and see what he's looking for out of what you guys have, because if its not what you want then it probably will never be! !

I just got out of a crazy situation with this [guy] at hampton ?? which may help explain his actions! anyway he tried talkin to me! not my type at all, yet he came across really sweet and i eventually let him in ..as things got deep, and my feelings grew i guess i scared him away. I did this by asking for a relationship! and i wonder why do guys always want to string females along at their convience, yet are afraid of real commitment? anywho; i stuck around and decided to wait.. yet eventually my feelings kept growing, his TRUE colors started showing, and i got left hurt, and with a whole bunch of unanswered questions. Telling myself that I never want to trust again! yet is it my fault because he told me from the door that he didnt want a relationship? Yet everything he said and did was different??

..and another thing?? why do girls settle. Is it because they are comfortable with what they have and truely believe they cant find better? what do u think!?